Isn’t it normal to come across bad, insane or evil people at some point of our lives? Nobody would have any problem with insane people if they didn’t make others around them insane too. Same with the bad and evil characters. We need to learn dealing with all these types of people. It is easy to sympathize with someone poor state of mental health, but it is hard to bear them. However, most of us, at one time or another, find ourselves in situations where we have to deal with insane people.
5 Tips to deal with insane people
Insane people may be dangerous for themselves or to the people in their surroundings. Dealing with these types of people is really tough and needs proper study in it. One must just try to stay as far as possible from them to maintain the dignity in their life. Here are few ways to tackle with such people.
1. Move out of the scene
It is not very safe to be in touch with insane people throughout one’s life. A time comes in life when one has to get detached from the mentally unstable person. One just needs to behave in such a way that his talks does not affect you in any way and that you are unbothered about his talks. Just ignore him. Insane people have the tendency to attract attention of people who react to their behavior and talks. They get their enthusiasm and power from these types of reacting people who get affected by these insane peoplesâ talks and actions. The best way to deal with them is to cut off all emotional attachments with them and turn a deaf ear to their gossips. This will simply keep you away from the insanity world.
2. Most of the fault lie with them
Sometimes it is noticed that insane people behave irrationally with you. It is not because of your behavior of actions always. You must know as to what exactly went wrong and why is that person behaving irrationally. These insane people get frustrated and angry upon little things and get on the nerves of other people at times. This type of behavior may have various reasons. They are generally insecure about themselves and so pour out their frustrations on others close to them. These reactions may be attached to any past event or act in their life. So the normal person should not be tensed and confused as to what he has done. In reality the fault does not lie in him.
3. Move on
It is often seen that insane people seem to trouble the lives of the normal people to a very high extent. It is beyond the capacity of a normal person to bear the difficulties. The wisest decision is to move on with life and get away from that insane person somehow. Due to these types of people oneâs mood, work, health as well as life is abruptly affected. Life is too short to live and enjoy so one must not waste time on tolerating such crazy people. A thought may arise in the minds of many that it is not as easy as it is said. But to put it short, a toxic environment is not viable for one to survive peacefully. It damages the self respect and also puts one on slippery grounds.
4. Develop coping strategies
These insane people are nothing but wastage of time for normal people. They must be ignored as much as possible. They are typical drains who strain out all the energy from a normally living human being. A way to escape from these types of people is to get in close contact with radiators. Radiators are nothing but a person who helps you gain the energy and eventually makes you feel enthusiastic. Exposure to these radiators can be beneficial and to some extent keep you away from the insane lot.
5. Don’t stoop to their level
It should always be kept in mind that one must not stoop to the level of the insane people. They are typically irrational. One must act smartly with a certain type of class and have the dignified attitude. A saying goes like âlet barking dogs barkâ. This means that if someone does a wrong deed then the rational person would not follow his way and do what he thinks is right for him. One should not fall to the level of these types of people and affect the prestige of oneâs name. This act might mean that you are bothered with what they say and they will continue to drop your dignity even further. One needs to hold their heads high and act as bigger people. This will eventually make the crazy lot move away from you or they might try to change to be a normal person in the near future.
But, what to do when the insane person is your family member?
There’s a difference between dealing with an insane acquaintance and an insane family member. You can indeed choose your patner, but you can’t choose your kids and parents. If they happen to be insane, you need a very different startegy to deal with them.
Keep the temper of your loved ones in control with these 6 tips
We all lose our cool at times, but coming across a family member who has lost his/her temper is a reality check for your patience too. When you come face to face with your family member who has lost his/her temper and is yelling at the top of his voice, the most common reaction is you start shooting yourself. If you react in the same manner, you can never get a solution for the problem. An effort to keep your opinion in front of the other person provokes him/her even more. However, there are certain simple yet effective tips to react back in such a situation.
1. Keep yourself in control
If you cannot keep yourself in control, it would be difficult for you to control the emotions of the other person. Most of the times you tend to react back without even considering the consequences of it. Take your time, analyze the situation but keep yourself calm. Try to divert you attention or if needed, leave the place for a few minutes so that you get some time for yourself. You can think more effectively when you sit alone and try to give a second thought to it.
Ignore that the person standing in front of you is mad at you. The mistake we make is that we ask the other person to recall the whole incidence or try to give him/her a clarification, which never works really. On the contrary, when the person recalls the whole incidence he/she strengthens his/her viewpoint unknowingly. You do not really listen or understand anything when you are in a bad mood. So, just ignore as if nothing has happened.
3. Listen patiently
In most cases, ignoring the person works but if it does not seem to work then wait for them to calm down. When the person stops yelling and seem comfortable to have a conversation, you must ask him/her the reason. Listen patiently without interrupting; it helps him/her speak his/her heart out which is relaxing in itself. It is one of the most effective methods to get rid of your negative emotions since you give words to your feelings eventually.
4. Do not argue
An argument on your part may bring the conversation at the same point. Do not try to confront him by saying things that prove him/her wrong. Give him/her all the time in the world to keep his/her part of the story in front of you and pay attention to everything he/she says. You can win his/her trust this way and it helps you get to the nub of the matter too. If you argue, the other person takes it as a denial to his/her self-beliefs.
5. Clear the air
Present your opinion, but in a manner that does not sound challenging. When you lose control, you are not able to listen to the other person. Arguments on the other hand instigate negativity and eliminate all the possibilities of having a healthy conversation. Sharing your opinion with other person is always helpful especially when you are frustrated or do not find a way out of your problems. Wait for the right time when the person is in a mood to have a conversation and keep your viewpoint in front of him/her.
6. Let him/her do the talking
It is important that you let the other person have the last words since it gives him/her an upper hand or at least makes him/her feel so. It lessens the chances of having an argument again. If you are able to calm him/her down and are able to have a conversation with him/her, it is a great achievement for you since most people react the other way around.
It is not difficult to switch off an angry person if you keep yourself calm and controlled. Get to the nub of the matter, listen and do not react back in the same manner.
How to deal with bad people
Everybody encounters bad and negative people in their lives, who are capable of ruining out day in just a matter of seconds. The following are a few ways of dealing with such people.
A person is never bad, their actions and intentions make them bad, do not treat them as incurable people. Some people find it harder to detach themselves from bad habits, some are drawn more easily towards them than the rest and some just donât have any reason to be good. Try to understand a bad person and the reason behind their behavior and then you will able to treat it. Try to see some good in them and applaud it, give the bad person a chance to improve himself and earn some respect. Praising small good acts which they carry out will motivate them. Encourage them where they are right and allow them to take their time because old habits die hard.
Hold your ground
When you encounter a bad person, do not allow their behavior to reflect in your own. If they are rude or bad to you, it does not mean you will grab this as an excuse to be bad. Keep your own nature and good behavior intact, do not let them affect you or make you react to them. It is important that you do not let them push you around, so you must hold your ground and do what’s right. Don’t be drawn into a conflict or argument with them but also do not deviate from your goal because of their interference. Bad behavior shown by certain people is enough to distract us for our main motives hence you must keep your eyes fixed on your target.
When you have tried to deal with such people politely and still have failed to induce a change, start avoiding them. Avoiding doesn’t mean that you ignore them in their face, doing this will make them annoyed and irritated. Do it in polite and gentle manner which they cannot contradict directly. Keep yourself occupied in their vicinity and never gossip about them to your friends. Ask your friends if they have similar problem with this particular person, seek their help in dealing with this person. If the person is at your workplace and is working with you, do not be prejudiced against their work just because of their behavior.
How to deal with evil people
Evil is universal and every element leading to a person’s activity is either influenced by an evil force or a good force. Let’s read on to know the ways to deal with evil people.
Observe and identify their acts
There is a difference between a person who is ignorant and a person who is deliberately impulsive to hurt and trouble others. It becomes necessary to check the influence behind a person’s behavior. So, ask yourself, if a person is characterized by evil intentions, cruel thoughts, wrong motives or negative energies and then take a call on it.
It helps when you observe their movements and eventually take necessary precautions to deal with their actions or motives. Do not jump into hasty conclusions. Be aware of those factors that lead a person to do evil things.
You’ll never know if someone is truly going through a bad phase in life or having a rough day or if someone is reacting to a situation blown out of proportion. Some would be totally ignorant of social etiquette. They may be having momentary lapses, that we all have at times.
So, be wise to observe the movements of evil people and identify their acts.
Some moves can be predictable, while others may subtly linger to dominate at the end. This can apply widely to all those people who are influenced by evil. It is better to deal with them early.
For instance, if you see someone in a destructive mode, then try not to share important matters and secrets with them.
Let your communication be straight to the point and crisp. There is no point in beating around the bush for a simple matter. Be reasonable and logical while you work out a task with them. Let your yes be yes and your no be no. You need not have to wait on them to hit back because they could unexpectedly hit at you at any moment. Pick the point right away and deal with them.
If you foresee a possibility of evil that is bound to happen in the very beginning of the conversation, be the first one to cut it off without a hesitation. Make a clever move.
If you cannot resist them, deal with them
Sometimes you will have no choice but to deal with evil people, due to compelling situations which holds you in a fix. It is not a good idea to hope goodness out of them. Things may not get any better by the event.
In situations where you think you need help, it is advisable to call for the elders or seniors or the higher up, for assistance. For instance, if you find them breaking the company rules, then inform your boss.
At any given situation, it is good to have someone else with you. It is best if you confront them in person, and in public. All the other ways of confronting may remain useless like email, phone calls or letter etc. Face to face confrontation would be better to fix the issue at the earliest.
Sometimes, you may have to work with an evil person all through your life or for a period of time. Here, it becomes absolutely necessary to draw boundaries of dignity and respect that they will not and cannot cross, no matter what the consequence is. The moment you let them slide closer to you or break your boundaries, be sure of becoming a slave to their tunes.
You need to prepare and know what to speak to them, even before you meet them or talk to them. Specially if you’re touching upon your personal matters, then you better watch out on your words. Else, it may get dragged to a point of non-agreement between you and them, leading to serious and disgraceful scenes.
At work place, professional order has to be maintained with utmost discipline and principle attached to it, according to the company employee relationship laws and agreement.
Keep a close watch on their actions and create a time line to critically observe and evaluate their intentions and movements. Give them warning notices as early as possible. Let them be aware that there will be consequences for their actions. They’ve got to know that there are certain principles which cannot be negotiable in terms of personal and professional code of conduct and ethics.
Discern evil characters
Discern the person’s character and his nature. Stay far away from being a sufferer by knowing the characteristics of evil people.
Be careful of deception: Lies is the only enemy of the truth. Evil people often resort to speaking lies. Reality is the least on their mind. They play around with words. So, you need to filter every word they utter and connect it to reality. If you find a disconnection there, be sure to know their true colors. Lying is their best weapon of consolation. It helps to be logical in understanding evil people and to test their actions.
Be careful of manipulation: Evil people would do anything to get what they want. They would certainly walk with you for an extra mile to induce you into their charms. They manipulate in a way that their victims fall into a seemingly unknown trap. It is wise to keep yourself updated on the person’s background and not to give it easily. They could even create false impressions and false complexes to claim that they know everything on Earth and that there is no one else like them. But know the truth to tackle the evil of manipulation.