In violence caused among the family members, everyone involved becomes a victim. If you want to deal with it, you need to stand up and face it and try to change the course and stop its occurrence. Here are some ways to deal with family violence.
Find the cause
It becomes difficult to stay together if you continuously achieve a point which can make you argue endlessly till the argument breaks into a vivacious fight causing extreme violence consisting of verbal and physical abuses. You need to understand that where you have to keep yourself in control and make others in the family understand about their limits too. This is indeed a very difficult task. You will have to observe and try to find all that irritates you and all that in you which irritates your family. Probably, looking at it generically can be a better help. Find by mutual talks and note it down and if at all, other family members are also evenly frustrated because of regular violence in family, discuss with them about how you all should react if anyone among you loses his/her control. Apart from lowering the number of such stressful incidents, your being together to find the solution will also bind you more with each other.
Sort it out with mutual discussion
This is the toughest thing to do if the next person doesnât listen to anything you want to say. But let us consider that at least sometime he/she is in the mood to hear you and others. You need to make things better without involving others, so you have to take this first step. See, a fight generally is double sided unless and until one of the two has some mental issues which causes him/her to lose control. So, you have to make everyone realize this that it is not a big thing that you all fight with each other but it is kind of making a hell out of your sweet home. A few disagreements can never be so bothering but if they are becoming very frequent, you all need to talk about it and figure a solution by trying to understand each otherâs demands.
Does anyone need medical attention
If the fights are recurring and you are unable to put an end to them even after keeping a sane mind and trying to be as cool as possible, try to find out whether the family member, who is responsible for taking the first foot out to create such situation, is mentally stable or not. There can be many reasons like alcohol, drugs, or some sorts of mental illness like mania, depression causing such burst outs. If it is like that, you will have to convince him/her to start taking medications to get out of it. There is no need to make him/her realize that how your family environment is getting hampered due to his/her behavior. Just get proper medical attention and everything will be alright.
Take help from closest relatives and friends
Sometimes we are unable to find a proper solution to a few problems, in such cases we need to take help of our closest friends and relatives. Do not feel ashamed and embarrassed while talking about your family issues with them. Remember, you are trying to help your family by trying to find out a way which can help them get out of the regular fights, disagreements and frustrations. Try to make your relatives, someone who is elderly to come and stay with your family. This will cause a sudden change in everyoneâs behavior. During this time, you all can resolve your personal grudges against each other by talking peacefully and sometimes even taking help of your old uncle or aunt. You can even communicate to each other your individual feelings through a friend.
Ask for help
Lots of people make the mistake of not mouthing out what is happening with them at home, considering it to be a personal thing. If you are one of these, stop doing this right away. You have tried a lot and sacrificed even more, if something good was going to happen, it would have happened much before. Now, it is time to get out and ask for help. There are lots of social organizations which can help you get out of such troublesome situations. Remember, silence is a kind of acceptance. If you remain silent even after watching and hearing everything that is happening in your house, you are accepting it. There are police laws specially made for the victims of home violence. Do not sit back and hope for the things to change. Either change them yourself or take someoneâs help to change it.
