It sounds strange but we always have solutions for almost all problems or at least we pretend so when we sit in the middle of a group, but when we face the same thing in real life, we go blank. Staying in the trauma and keeping yourself hungry is quite natural and it makes everyone aware that you are upset but getting solutions takes a lot of heart. Here are a few tips that you can use to come out of that phase of sadness and despair.
Deal with your problems
It is a human tendency to run away from problems. However, we forget the fact that he longer we take to deal with our problems, the bigger they get with time. Act immediately, do not let your problems grow bigger. There is another side to it with time we start accepting them as a part of our live and then we do not see them as problems that need our immediate attention.
Get a hold of your feelings
Do not lose control when you come across problem. When you lose control over emotions, you tend to make decisions that you regret later. Stay calm, think of all the possible solutions and then make a decision. If possible, look at the bigger picture; think as if you are dealing with someone else’s problems. It is difficult, but you would come up with better solution to your problem.
Life never goes your way. So, accept the realities of life since only then you could take an initiative to fight against your problems. If you do not accept the hardships of life, you end up feeling frustrated and miserable; you would be miles away from solution.
Learn to cut off yourself from consequence
Our fear of results comes in the way of our actions. You have to give your best and stop worrying about the result. When you learn to detach yourself from the results, you become an active person.
Be a doer not a thinker
Analyzing a situation gives you an insight to the problem, but when you overdo this, it becomes a problem itself. Your thoughts start taking the place of your actions and result in vain.
Focus on solution not problem
Do not get caught in the problem itself, think of the desired solutions for it. The thoughts of your problem would make it harder to deal with them. When you think about the solution, you find creative ways to reach to the solution since you get free from the load of the problem. You need to think about the solution as your mind has the capability to reach to it. It is bit spiritual stuff but it works.
Laugh at your problems
No, it is not funny, but laughing gives you a cool brain to think over the solutions. No problem is bigger than you and your life. Look for a solution with a cool mind since a free mind can help you go a long way to deal with your problems. Your dreams are bigger than any of your problems.
It’s your life
The biggest reason of our problems comes from the comparisons we keep making with others. No matter what you achieve, there are people better than you, and there are many who go hungry for days. Do not make false comparisons; your life is all about you. You are different, special, rich or poor but most important. Everyone else comes later.
All the smiling faces around us have a sad story behind the smile and this is the beauty of life, you simply keep facing the struggles of life head on and never let anything bring you down.