It is a universal law that a breakup with our beloved hurts, and sometimes it hurts so bad that some people do not even hesitate to take serious steps as suicides. Therefore, a question arises that what it is that hurts so badly after a breakup.
Why breakups hurt
When we get into a relationship, it is a magical moment. One feels high-spirited and feels as if he or she is the only love of their life. Both partners confide in each other mentally and physically. Both look forward to meet each other every day because they find sheer happiness in each other’s company. Late night conversations over phone, long drives, weekend vacations, and much more stuff that the love birds enjoy doing together. They start sharing a unique bond that is amiss in the relationship that people share with other people in life. This relationship becomes one of the most precious possessions in life, which one does not like even think of losing.
As time passes, partners develop a fantasy bond. A fantasy bond is one wherein partners fantasize about their future together in each other’s company. The future plans of their wedding, family, children, and old age, are often cooked and garnished in their mind. However, both partners fear separation; they fear the loss of their lovely bond, the fear of losing one’s most beloved person. When the mere thought of separation is so damn painful and disturbing, so when it actually happens, you can well imagine what level of mental torture it brings with itself. When a fantasy bond breaks, it leaves both partners overwhelmingly shattered, emotionally, mentally, and physically. No matter what reason caused a breakup but it makes it too hard for the partners to accept it. They find themselves helpless without the one whom they thought of as their soul mate.
One needs to accept breakups ASAP
There is no denying the fact that breaking up with a loved one is one of the most painful phenomena one experiences in life, as it puts you in an emotional phase full of anger, regrets, depression, frustration, and tremendous pain. However, there is a dire need for everybody going through this tough phase to stop clinging to the past and move on in life, and this is one thing that you can only do if you make yourself strong. Otherwise, if you choose to cling to your past, all it would give you is pain and tears. One needs to learn that what is gone has to be forgotten because the old memories overpower our mind and stop us from moving on in life.
Therefore, it is of paramount importance to accept a breakup soon after it happens. You have to face it and accept it, rather than crying over it and hurt yourself. You have to face that you are hurt, you are sad, and you are lonely. Go for an emotional release, as in talk your heart out to your friends, or do it with yourself but never ever engage in self-destructive behavior like drug abuse. Doing this, will certainly make you feel better and that too after a short period of your breakup. Then accept the fact that you were also partly responsible for a breakup because blaming is one thing that even worsens this sort of critical situation. Once you do these two things, you are ready to explore the next love of your life.
Summary
Breakups do hurt a lot but if we learn to accept them, it reduces the suffering and helps us move on with our life, and find happiness.
