Good friends are the biggest asset that a person can have and when they go bad, life starts looking very difficult. The following are a few ways to deal with a bad friend.
Be responsible and caring
Handling a friend in the worst of their moods or behavior is what will actually merit your being their friend. If you find your friend is not behaving properly or being wayward and is not paying attention to things which will hurt him in future, you must put your foot down. It isnât a philanthropic act in any manner, as a friend it is your responsibility. Try to talk to them and understand what has brought such a change in them. Notice their behavior carefully, and even if it irritated you, bear it calmly. Where you think talking to their spouse, siblings or parents will help, do it and donât be shy about it. Care for your bad friend as your would for any other, do not be partial towards them.
Don’t forget yourself, don’t get used
When you are encountering a person who you think is not a good friend, do not trust them blindly. Always think about what you are doing before doing it because your friend might lead you into trouble and you will be left with no way out. Remember your limits; getting into any small mischief with such a person will also have its future recursions. Your friend may not be feeling guilty about any of his activities or may not be answerable to anybody, but you will not have the same liberty. Donât get carried away with this friend and let yourself and your parents down. You will earn a bad name for yourself if you do not confront you friend and tell him that he is wrong. Avoid being used for their purpose and when you have tried your best, do not fear cutting off ties.
Don’t end it bitterly
You must make your best efforts in keeping your friendship intact, fight, argue, forgive and forget, try everything in your power to make your friend see right. It is important that before you drift away from this friend, you give it your best shot as it will help you avoid any guilt that you may have felt later. After you have decided painstakingly that you can no longer stay friends with the person no matter how hard you try, itâs time to say goodbye. Remember, this friend has been with you since quite some time and knows you very well, that includes your secrets and weaknesses. Donât break away bitterly, be calm and polite and let them know that you are always there if you need them. In the end, apologize to them for anything that might have hurt them unintentionally and move on.
