Bad breakup is always difficult to deal with. Try to stay positive and focus on what you want to become in your life rather than wallowing in the past and screwing the rest of your life.
When you feel downbeat, then do not grapple the darkness of your room and sit idle for hours or cut yourself off from everyone. Your loneliness may wreak havoc with everything. Itâs going to be a foolâs paradise if you think sitting back at home and recalling your sad past will solve all your problems. Just because someone broke your trust or left you, doesnât at all mean that you have to funk sharing your thoughts with others. So, talk to your best friend or to someone who will allay your fears and will tolerate even your hogwash talks, to make you happy. Tell them how did the relationship end up and how badly hurt you are. Then, you can get on your hobbyhorse with them. You can also spend quality time with your friends, family and neighbor. Try to vent out the aggravation. Their company will definitely enliven you and your anguish will fall away. You may try out the pubs, discos, restaurants etc. Hobnob with people and sundry at the pub. Besides, you can live it up by visiting the social networking sites which will provide you generous leeway to get away with your gloominess. Keep aside your problems and try not to disgruntle yourself. Make a trip or a spree to somewhere for few days and donât be in the blue funk about it. It will divert your mind from your depressive life and you will be soon over the hill and on the mend.
Be your own best friend; be logical and practical
You might be constantly hounded over in your thoughts by the one who broke your heart. But, don’t care two hoots about this. Sometimes, it becomes a bit too intricate because of the complexity of your problem to share your thoughts with someone. And so, you may frantically try to fight with your pain in meek silence and heartrending sigh. However, bottling up of your feelings in this way will inversely affect your health. At this moment you need someone who is most trustworthy, who knows you best, loves you most and stand well with yourself. And that someone is you. At the end of the day, even if not a soul is there with you, never fail to remember you are forever and a day beside yourself. Tell yourself, “so what that I had a breakup! This is not the end of the world. I have plenty of other fish in the sea.” And, let me tell you that this is not my flight of fancy, as I believe, you will be most comfortable while talking to yourself and won’t be sailing under false colors. And, always try to think logically. Cook said: “Try to impose some reason,” “Inject some reality.” When you have a breakup, you might feel that nobody loves you. You might think you are the most dim-witted person in this whole world. But, can you prove that even to yourself? Just because you had a breakup doesn’t mean that you are worthless or unwanted. Even if you have been dumped by the person you loved the most, who told you that nobody loves you? What about your parents, family and friends? Think about all these and you will find that you are not that unfortunate!
Volunteer to a cause or event and be active
To take the pain out of yourself, why donât you help people worse off than you are? After you are flat broke, you possibly will feel that your life is a fate worse than death. You may have plumbed the depth of despondency, but working for a gracious cause will let you apprehend that how blessed you are. It is very true that you have lost your love after the breakup. I agree that the time till you have been together is very difficult to forget. But, you have to fight against such odd things by taking up responsibilities and remaining active. And when you are depressed, there will be a natural tendency to shrink away. At first you might not be able to fully concentrate, so begin with the light works at home. Engross yourself into things you like to do the most like singing, painting, watching television, going to the gym, playing games etc. Get so much hooked on it that you forget your agony of despair. Try to enjoy yourself in the world, which is your happy hunting ground. Allow your imagination and desire free rein. Whatever catches your fancy, just go for it. Increase your activities gradually. You will find your fretfulness getting washed away in next to no time.
If you really want to recover, then exercise religiously. Take a walk or jog with your friend or someone to avoid the ennui. You can also hit the gym or do yoga or breathing exercises, meditate, take after-dinner walks. Studies have shown that a few minutes of exercise can make you happier, enhance your self-esteem and build your energy by releasing endorphins. If you want to be hale and hearty, then follow a healthy lifestyle.
Visit a doctor
If you are too depressed, then visiting a doctor will be the best option. They might ask you to try out antidepressants, psychotherapy, talk therapy, medication or medication and therapy together. You may be required to keep consulting the therapists unless you find the one who best suits you and guides you perfectly. The types of therapy that can help you with your depression can be – Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) / Psychodynamic therapy / Interpersonal therapy. Some drugs can also be a treatment for your depression. But, itâs always safe to consult a doctor for that purpose.