There is nothing worse than losing trust in a relationship. It will be a pain to get along with each other and anything that the person does will always be looked upon with suspicion by the wronged partner. Though it is hard to overcome betrayal in a relationship, you can work towards overcoming the distrust and make amends, all with a little bit of good sense.
Communication is always important
Communication is the best way to keep away from misunderstanding and distrust. If a partner starts distrusting the other, there is no scope for the relationship to develop and every single act done by the partner will only be seen with a mistrustful eye by the person who doubts him/her. If you doubt your partner, the best way to deal with it is to talk to him/her. Clear all misunderstandings rather than drop hints and try to test his/her patience or make both your lives hell. Open and constant communication will help in removing all kinds of distrust between each other. As a couple, you must be aware of everything each one of you does on an everyday basis. Trying to hide something will only create opportunities for mistrust, especially if your partner comes to know about what you are trying to hide through another source.
Transparency and honesty
For a relationship to be successful and remain forever, it requires two transparent and honest individuals. Transparency and honesty will prevent all kinds of trust issues in a relationship. When you are honest about what you have done and what not, there is no room for insinuations and hints from others to spoil your relation. Even if others make up stories, you will always be confident that you will be able to prove your innocence as you have not hidden anything from your spouse. If you constantly mistrust each other, check your compatibility quotient and assess how truthful and open you are towards each other. If you find that you both are deficient in this factor, talk to each other and make an effort to be more open towards each other from now on. Soon you will see a sure improvement in your relationship.
Leave the past behind
Trust issues surface when one person or both the people involved are not willing to leave the past behind. It could be possible that you know instances where your partner was not truthful or have cheated on others and vice versa. This would be still clear and fresh in your mind and you could still be judging your partner based on those past events. It could also be that he or she has betrayed you previously and you have not forgotten it entirely. In such cases, where you have not entirely forgotten or pardoned the person involved, the incidences keep cropping up every now and then, disturbing your peace of mind and stressing you out. Talk it out with your partner and if you want the relationship to work, make sure that you pardon each other completely and do not dwell on past issues which will affect your present and future of togetherness.
Concentrate on the present and future
The present state of your relationship will decide the future as well. Therefore, it is important to work on the flaws that are present and make an effort to change them so that you will have a happy and perfect future together. Concentrating on the present means spending quality time with each other to understand your flaws and making an earnest effort to change your flaws. It also means being able to forgive and forget past mistakes which have been already rectified and an ability to encourage each other to be better human beings. For working on the present to secure your future, you must also be honest and truthful to each other completely.
Time for healing and understanding
Once you have understood each other completely, there is a point where you just keep supporting each other through thick and thin and with this comes perfect understanding, trust, compatibility and emotional stability. Most relationships do not reach this state of perfection which is why there is always some kind of tension and friction that crop up on a frequent basis. A healing time for past mistakes must be set and once all wounds that are past and present are healed, you reach a level of truthfulness in which you both are very comfortable as partners. At this stage, no amount of external insinuations can get in the way of your trust for each other and you will be blissfully happy in your life.
