As a child of the 80s, and having grown up in a strict family, I was always taught to respect everyone as much as possible. I had many strong females in my family, and my respect for women in general is high because of that. This article is in no way an attack on women, but it is an attack on a modern mindset that is ruining women and their chances of finding a good man.
First, lets define the different faces of the modern woman:
1. Super Independant
She doesn’t need a man in her life to make her happy or to be happy with. She looks down on women who do. She has her career, lifestyle, the gym, shopping and her other endless pursuits, and men are a distraction. She focuses on herself, and if a man trys to be a part of her life, her first and foremost thought is What can he do for me? If he doesn’t have the status, the money, or the connections to advance her career, she simply isn’t interested. Her life is about her, and unless you are adding some value to her life in the form of material gains, she will take what she can and move on. Beyonce has constantly told them to be independant and that they don’t need men to be happy. One thing they don’t realise is that this is purely to sell records, and in no way related to the artists own life.
2. Career Focused and Mid Manager
Her interaction with men is mostly on a manager-employee level. She spends the majority of her time in the relationship micro-managing her partner, barking instructions at him and so focused on her career that she forgets to build a solid and real connection. She has been told over and over again that she needs to make her own career and money just in case her man leaves her, that all she wants to do is protect herself from that ever happening, while not realising that she is ruining her only chance of building a solid relationship with a man who is willing to take her shit, for now anyway.
Eventually her man will leave her, proving her self fulfilling prophecy without realising she was so close to being truly happy.
3. The Attractive Attention Whore
These girls weren’t brought up by kind and caring mothers. Instead, they were brought up by MTV, the Kardashians and Hip Hop. Her main focus in life is how many men she can be with, how popular she can become, how many expensive things she can buy or have bought for her, and how many followers she can have on Instagram. These girls forget any good man that comes into their life because they are under the impression that they will be beautiful forever. Any good man who meets her realises her worth and doesn’t spend more than a week or two in bed with her while still pursuing the good girl he will eventually marry. These girls eventually get in touch with the good guys, when the attention drys up and the wrinkles kick in, but everyone’s moved on and only interested in one thing from her.
4. The Girl With High Self Worth
These girls are smart. They have been from a young age, and understand the male and female roles in the world. They know that the feminism claim that men and woman are equal is bullshit, and they understand what a good man is and what they need to be to get one. They respect themselves and hold out for the best, even if they’re urges sometimes tell them to do otherwise. They are more in touch with their maternal instincts, and love to be able to build a family and a home with the right person. This is not their only pursuit, but their actions never jeopardise this. It is in their core to be good, and they see life in its entirety, not just what it is in the present moment. They plan and because of this, make better decisions in the long run.
Thanks to the fourth type, not all hope is lost.
There are many more types, but they are a varying degree of one of the above.
This is a dangerous cycle. As men, we have an almost endless window to find our eventual spouse and build a family, but the modern woman has been caught in a trap by the media and men who want them to live a certain way, without realising that by doing most of things they are doing, they are reducing their chances of finding the right man. With the amount of technology at our disposal, it is near impossible to do anything without your friends knowing. Any man who is willing to accept the misguided lifestyles of the modern woman, is settling. He is settling for second, third or fourth best, and he will not be happy. In the long run, a man will want a strong willed female who he can rely on to bring up well mannered and moral children. It is not only up to the man to do this, but if the woman has led a life of self indulgence and materialism, how can she be relied on to be a moral guide for their children?
She can’t.
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These woman are sabotaging their own futures.
Life is not about what you can get from a man. Its not about how popular you can become and how much attention you can get from how many men. One thing they need to know is, if you depict celebrities, you are buying into their own misguided lifestyles and helping THEM make even more money. You are just copying.
As a man, you can merely sit back and watch these woman self destruct. I’ve seen many 30-something women who have had one too many Botox injections, one too many surgery and now depict a cat more than a woman. They are desperately trying to hold on to the last bit of their youth, because that was the only thing they ever had going for them.
Hold out for the good ones. Never settle for someone who doesn’t meet all of your requirements, and if you know of something in their past that you don’t like, keep looking. Social media shows the world what the girls are doing, and if you don’t like it, theres no rush for you.
