When you find out that your boyfriend is cheating on you, it raises various questions about how to deal with the situation and whether to continue the relationship. However, knowledge of dealing with infidelity helps in decision making.
Make your boyfriend jealous
Making your boyfriend jealous is the best way to let him know what he missed out by cheating on you. When you detect that your boyfriend is cheating you, do not sit in a corner of a room and lament over the fact. This will give a message that you are still sulking about him. Instead of giving this signal, put on your best clothes, deck yourself up and go out with friends and have fun. If you happen to come across your boyfriend at a disco for instance, hit the dance floor and dance as if you donât care about anything or anyone. Dance with such a zest for life that your cheater boyfriend realizes your worth and what he is losing by letting you go away from him. When you are hanging around and having fun, you must make it a point to talk with your boyfriendâs friends. Laugh at their jokes and silly banters to the utmost level. The smile on your face will make him realize that his cheating has not affected you at all.
Avoid doubting or pitying yourself
Always remember the fact that your boyfriend has cheated you and it is not the other way round. So, stop pitying yourself or having doubts about yourself. Do not have doubts about your dressing sense or your sense of humor. Do not think of yourself in a bad light. This will make you lose your confidence and you will have negative thoughts whenever you will encounter your boyfriend. Self pity will diminish your self esteem and prevent you from thinking straight and rationally. For dealing with a cheating boyfriend, it is most essential that you keep your self esteem intact by focusing more on the fact that you gave your time and trust to build this relationship. Remember that it is the fault of the other person who has not been able to maintain the purity of the relationship.
Ask for professional assistance
Taking the expert assistance from some professional to solve your problem would also be a good decision. A professional help will not only help you to restore your failing self-confidence but also guide you in having a clear mind about certain issues. The professional will help you in dealing with your infidel boyfriend with discretion and maturity. The professional will also be able to keep a record of your boyfriend without suspicion. If you are willing to share your suspicions with one or two of your very intimate friends, be very sure that the information that you share with them does not spread further and lead to the formation of unwanted rumors. This can have negative results in many cases. The cheater may become aware of the fact that you are suspecting him and it may become very difficult on your part to prove his infidelity. Moreover, if you have hired professional help, it may also cause problems for the investigation.
Confronting the cheater
Cheaters are great liars and manipulators. One should never disclose all the information you have when you are confronting them. Disclose the information you have, slowly. Unless you have hard core evidence, do not blame the person. Ask questions and see how they answer back. Sometimes they will realize that you are suspecting them and may confess their deeds. At times you will have to press harder to get out the truth. âI feelâ or âI thinkâ type of phrases which are less direct also help in furthering your questions. If you have proof against your boyfriend, and have decided against continuing the relation, you can disclose the facts that you know all about his cheating. They may try to deny these facts and make up stories. This will prove that you are correct and it also shows that they are not only cheaters but also liars. These are not positive character traits and hence this will help you in sticking to your decision.
Do not get involved in the game of the cheater
Do not play games with the cheater. They are too experienced in lying, manipulating and cheating people, which is not your field of expertise. Hence, it will be good if you will stick to your weapons, which are essentially of the noble kind. Use your weapons and bring him down. Otherwise, if you get involved in the game of deceits, you will leave openings to attack you unaware. These people will find every small reason to strengthen their manipulative ideas and turn you into a corner. They will try to distract you with these actions and hence will be able to change the topic of the discussion. Even worse will be the fact, that the way they will mold the topic, you will feel sad for accusing them and end up asking for their apology. You should accumulate as much knowledge as you can about the person. It is really difficult to restrain yourself from asking questions to the person once you have so much information. But never give yourself away to them. Honesty and transparency are your qualities, not theirs. Keep the facts to yourself so that you can use them at a later date. However, if you tell them now, they will make up stories confidently to counter the facts that you have known about them.
