Close relationships, no doubt, make you stronger but sometimes the same relationships may actually seem like a burden that hardly lets you breathe freely. It is your decisions that make or break your relationships. It is important that you value your partner and forgive him/her for his/her mistakes instead of dragging things. Let us have a look at a few things that may prove to be toxic for a romantic relationship. You should not:
Expect them to change
Improving your ways is something different but if you wish your partner to change their basic nature, it can pose a threat to their individuality. When you have decided to take your relationship to yet another level, you have to accept them as they are. Their habits, friends, hair, hobbies and anything that is a part of their personality must get a true acceptance.
Drag things forward
Arguments or clashes of thoughts are quite natural but do not give it a form of a war that never ends. Yelling and shouting serves no purpose when you know that you have to show an agreement eventually. Do not let your arguments take the form of abusive language or name-calling.
Make baseless comparisons
Comparisons of any kind always instigate negativity. Do not compare your partner with your parents, or his/her parents with your parents. Such comparisons always end up with an argument that has no end to it.
Dig up the past
We all make mistakes be it making wrong decisions, choosing wrong partners or hiding truth. One must not try to dig up the past in an attempt to humiliate his/her partner no matter what the situation is. This may be an impulsive decision on your part but the impact it has is everlasting. Let bygones be bygones, do not visit the dark old lane every time you get into an argument with your partner. Do not be judgmental about each other’s past.
Impose yourself on your partner
Especially when you are making important decisions of your life, you must not try to impose yourself on your partner. Learn to respect his/her opinion and make decision with mutual consent. Decisions like getting married, having kids or moving to another city are a few great examples when both must agree with each other.
Show lack of interest
The initial stage of a romantic relationship always involve endless conversation over the phone and the sitting around for hours juts to spend time with each other. With time, this turns into a lack of interest in each other’s life. This lack of interest can be harmful for any relationship. Start things all over and make your partner feel important.
Keep a secret
Unless it is a beautiful surprise for your partner, keeping a secret backfires. If one of you gets to know that your partner has been hiding something for quite a while you would start making assumptions. The bad habit of keeping secrets can doom your relationship.
Threaten your partner
Those couples who threaten their partner believe that it brings their partner even closer to them but it is not true. The moment your partner starts taking it in a literal sense you would have to regret all your life. For example if you threaten him/her that you would end the relationship it becomes an option for him/her automatically.
When it comes to your close relationships one wrong decision can prove devastating for life. You must not challenge the self-respect of you partner even when you are in one of your dark moods. Discussing things over a cup of tea is much better way to resolve your issues.