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How to deal with gossiping co workers

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Most of us often find it hard to keep up with people gossiping about us everywhere and if it is your workplace then it is really challenging for you to perform well. Here are some solutions to deal with those jerks and get away with their gossiping habits.

Know the reason

The people gossiping behind your back might be suffering from low self esteem. They might feel powerless somewhere and whenever they get a little opportunity, they go ahead blabbering their heart out. Also there might be certain reasons which makes them less self-confident about making a firm stand on information that is being shared. What you can do is imagine them as lonely and scared who do not know how to ask for things and receive whatever they desire desperately. It is hard for them to deal with the fact that their ideas and thoughts are not being accepted. You should engage them in polite conversations so that you can turn things around. Compliment them on things and if they resume the gossips, ask them that you do not want to engage in such things. This would make them understand that they can gain acceptance and respect without gossiping about others.

Take things easy

One of the things that is rampant almost everywhere is the gossiping nature of people. It seems more likely that if people do not have anything better to do at the work place, they gossip about each other. If you find yourself frequently caught up in addressing people’s gossip then you must examine the theme on which people are talking on your back. However this nature is as normal as any negative behavior by people at work places so you need not be tensed up and lose your mind every time you are caught in such difficult situations. The only thing bothering this behavior could be a lack of healthy and efficacious information between you and your colleague. Avoid being an introvert and open up a little to people around you. Share enough information with your employees so that is leaves no room for gossiping about your behavior.

Confront straight-away

It would unstrain you a little to know that colleagues gossiping about you are most probably suffering from some serious issues and there is possibly only one explanation for their nature, and that is emotional imbalance. It is most certain that they are jealous or insecure seeing you rise up to a better position and performance. It is said that ‘Success breeds success and unfortunately, jealousy’. While you ascend the ladder of success, you are more likely to win more enemies than friends. Their main concern would be bringing your accomplishments down and hence can balk at your progress. See if it is your behavior to be blamed, before you blame anyone else because you do not want to give them any more reasons to hate you. If not, then walk straight up to them and talk. It is imperative to avoid bad feelings or get involved in fights for your career’s sake but holding up your prestige and discussing things openly would win you respect from your peers and would solve the matter easily.

Make the best of it

It is very difficult to deal with envious and jealous people around you and is more difficult to avoid it. Take everything to your advantage and you can turn the tables. Defuse their jealousy and constant gossip before it becomes a serious issue for you. Do not put your adversaries on the defensive, avoid doing it and you can make them feel desperate and threatened. Give them some room to back down. Always remember that all you have to do is avoid any huge spat, so be lenient with them and give them every opportunity to back down. If you can be polite to people regardless of their ill-behavior towards you, you can actually make them realize their mistakes.

Go for help

If you have tried enough ways of dealing with the constant gossiping habbits of people and are less on solutions then the best you can do is seek help. If you have tried all tactics and solutions and things still have not worked in your favour then there is no possibility that they would be resolved now or ever in future. Go to higher authorities and talk to them about the problem that you are facing. Do not think that this will make you appear fragile or weak in front of anyone. rather, it would just help you get out of the problem right away without being involved in it anymore. Find allies and deter the will of others. Simply sit with your superior formally and state your concerns and update them about any developments. While your colleagues may feel willing to tussle with you constantly, they may not be so eager when a senior is involved.

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