{"id":17492,"date":"2013-03-21T11:23:33","date_gmt":"2013-03-21T18:23:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lmlrn.com\/?p=1240"},"modified":"2021-02-25T05:52:10","modified_gmt":"2021-02-25T05:52:10","slug":"lifes-greatest-lessons-20-things-that-really-matter","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/drprem.com\/life\/lifes-greatest-lessons-20-things-that-really-matter","title":{"rendered":"Life Lessons: Life&#8217;s Greatest Lessons: 20 Things That Really Matter"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: center\">\n<p>Hal Urban &#8211; Life&#8217;s Greatest Lessons<\/p>\n<p><strong>Life lessons<\/strong> are infinite, but in his book, <strong>Life&#8217;s Greatest Lessons: 20 Things That Matter<\/strong>, <a title=\"life lessons\" href=\"https:\/\/www.halurban.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><b>Hal Urban<\/b><\/a> presents us with 20 lessons that are rooted in common sense and compassion. This book is more than just a hug-happy self-help book. <strong>20 Things That Matter<\/strong> insists that we all have a <strong>potential to live up to<\/strong>. As an award-winning teacher, he gathered these lessons from a long and illustrious career and we are sharing them with you here.<\/p><div class=\"354432276130f0c48f468f184f134530\" data-index=\"1\" style=\"float: none; margin:10px 0 10px 0; text-align:center;\">\n<a href=\"https:\/\/drprem.com\/wellness\/wellness-resort-consultancy-and-marketing\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/drprem.com\/wellness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/7\/2021\/12\/Wellness-Post-Ad-1.jpg\"><\/a>\n<\/div>\n\n<p>So without further ado, here are the <strong>20 things that matter<\/strong>:<\/p>\n<h4><strong>1. Success is More Than Making Money<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>Money isn\u2019t bad. Money isn\u2019t evil. Even if you have a lot of it. What matters is how you get it, and what you do with it. So what really makes a successful person?<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Successful<\/strong> people accept life. They say yes to it<\/li>\n<li>They maintain a positive attitude<\/li>\n<li>They care about other people<\/li>\n<li>They have a sense of purpose<\/li>\n<li>They are always learning<\/li>\n<li>They are always taking action<\/li>\n<li>They maintain high standards of personal conduct<\/li>\n<li>And successful people understand the difference between <strong>existing and living<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4><strong>2. Life is Hard, And Not Always Fair<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>We must stop asking why life is hard, and simply accept that it is. Move on. Tough it out. Right? Because when has complaining ever worked out for the best? We can\u2019t be successful by trying to avoid pain and suffering, because no matter where you turn or how wealthy you become, a tough day, or a surprise inconvenience (or downright misfortune) will always be right around the corner. So reap the benefits of solving problems, not avoiding them. By learning from pain, not shrinking from it. Have <strong>courage<\/strong>, hold your head high, and rise above it.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>3. Life is Also Fun &#8230; And Incredibly Funny<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>Sometimes we need to just lose our minds. Seriously. Let loose. Do something crazy. Be silly. Make a face. Dance around your living room with a toddler. Laugh! Because there\u2019s so much out there that is funny. You\u2019ll miss out if you\u2019re always negative. And don\u2019t forget: laugh at yourself, too. DON\u2019T FORGET IT!<\/p>\n<h4><strong>4. We Live by Choice, Not by Chance <\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>Life is a series of choices. We don\u2019t \u201chave to\u201d do anything. We make choices to avoid consequences or to reap rewards, and that ability to choose is life\u2019s greatest gift. Most importantly, we\u2019re free to choose who we are and what we do. So choose wisely.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>5. Attitude is a Choice\u23afthe Most Important One You\u2019ll Ever Make<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>Research from <strong>Stanford <\/strong>found that 85% of our success is attitude, while the other 15% is ability. Attitude is about what you expect out of life. Expect the best, and you\u2019ll get the best. Expect the worst, and, well, you get the picture.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>6. Habits Are The Key To All Success<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>Look closely and you\u2019ll discover that our life is almost entirely composed of <strong>habits<\/strong>. Some good, some bad. The good ones will develop our character and push us toward our destiny. The bad habits will degrade our character and push us into a void of emptiness and complete lack of purpose. In fact, we\u2019re pretty much slaves to our habits. So we\u2019d better form good ones.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>7. Being Thankful Is a Habit\u23afthe Best One You\u2019ll Ever Have<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>Instead of constantly worrying about the things we don\u2019t have, why not try and be thankful for the wonderful things we do have? And when was the last time we said thank-you to the people we appreciate in our life? Here\u2019s <strong>Hal Urban\u2019s<\/strong> <strong>\u201cTop 5\u201d<\/strong> things to be thankful for in this world:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Good people<\/li>\n<li>More freedom of choice than ever<\/li>\n<li>Boundless opportunity<\/li>\n<li>Education and learning<\/li>\n<li>General abundance and quality of life<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Maybe we should tack this list on the mirror so we see it every morning.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>8. Good People Build Their Lives on a Foundation of Respect<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>The Golden Rule still holds true today. As defined by Urban, the four pillars of respect are:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Manners (Treat others with consideration and respect)<\/li>\n<li>Language (What comes out of our mouths reflects who we are)<\/li>\n<li>Honoring the rules (Because they help us respect\u00a0 each other)<\/li>\n<li>Appreciating differences (By not judging others)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4><strong>9. Honesty Is Still the Best Policy<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>Dishonesty cripples us, while honesty brings us physical, mental, and emotional health. When we\u2019re honest, we become whole persons, instead of fractured, fake. Dishonesty always catches up with us, never pays, and in the end, eats us up from the inside out. So tell the truth. And \u201cto thine own self be true\u201d.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>10. Kind Words Cost Little but Accomplish Much<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>Train yourself to look for the good in people. And when you find it, tell them. You will bring out the best in everyone you meet, and they will love you for it. The general idea? It feels good to make others feel good.<\/p>\n<p>\/\/<br \/>\n\/\/<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center\"><strong>Page 1 of 2\u00a0 <\/strong><strong>NEXT &gt;<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<h4><strong>11. Real Motivation Comes from Within<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>One of life\u2019s most important truths is that no one can motivate us but ourselves. It must come from within.<\/p><div class=\"354432276130f0c48f468f184f134530\" data-index=\"2\" style=\"float: none; margin:10px 0 10px 0; text-align:center;\">\n<a href=\"https:\/\/drprem.com\/#businesses\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/drprem.com\/wellness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/7\/2021\/12\/Wellness-Post-Ad-2.jpg\"><\/a>\n<\/div>\n\n<p>It\u2019s not about hype, it\u2019s about knowing our own potential\u23afand wanting to exceed it.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>12. Goals Are Dreams with Deadlines<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>It\u2019s a to-do list\u23afbut for your life. Ever notice how to-do lists help you get things done? That\u2019s how goals work. Make them every year, and make them as specific as you can, in as many categories as you need. It\u2019s that simple. You\u2019ll be amazed at the results.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>13. There\u2019s No Substitute for Hard Work<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>I\u2019m pretty sure we\u2019ve all heard this one before, but we never seem to believe it. We always seem to be looking for the easy way out. The solution? When we want to sit down and rest; take a breath and push forward. When we want to turn on the TV; think of what else (anything else) we can do. When we feel like complaining about how hard the work is, be comforted\u23afyou\u2019ll sleep like a baby tonight.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>14. You Have to Give Up Something to Get Something<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>You\u2019ve heard the old phrase, <strong>\u201cNo pain, no gain\u201d<\/strong>. It\u2019s mostly used by athletes working to achieve a certain level of fitness. But today we\u2019re told to think the opposite way: play now, pay later. Credit card, anyone? So what\u2019s the difference? Hard work now makes the payoff even sweeter, whereas if you play now, the enjoyment is diminished. Because in the back of your mind, you know that nothing comes for free. You\u2019ll have to pay\u23afone way or the other. So the sooner we accept that nothing worth having will come easily, the better.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>15. Successful People Don\u2019t Find Time\u23afThey Make Time<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>We will always have enough time for the things that are most important to us. Here\u2019s Urban\u2019s four keys to making the most of your time:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Plan your day (There\u2019s the to-do list again\u23afand the more specific, the better.)<\/li>\n<li>Make appointments with yourself (Don\u2019t say \u201csomeday&#8230;\u201d, say \u201cMonday at 4.\u201d)<\/li>\n<li>Use the little-bit-at-a-time approach (Break down big tasks.)<\/li>\n<li>Know your most productive time (Are you a morning or an evening person?)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4><strong>16. No One Else Can Raise Your Self-esteem<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>Similar to <strong>motivation<\/strong>, it has to come from within. Today we need to distinguish mainly between self-worship and self-esteem\u23afand here\u2019s how Urban figures it has to be done:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Be Kind (If you\u2019re a jerk you\u2019ll never feel good about yourself.)<\/li>\n<li>Be honorable (Honour others, honour your word. Value integrity.)<\/li>\n<li>Be productive (When you\u2019re getting stuff done, you\u2019re feeling good.)<\/li>\n<li>Be <strong>positive<\/strong> (Negative thoughts are opposed to true self-esteem.)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4><strong>17. The Body Needs Nutrition and Exercise\u23afSo does the Mind and Spirit<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>Garbage in, garbage out. The phrase applies to the body (junk food vs. nutritious) and the mind (Jerry Springer vs. Shakespeare), but what about the spirit? Most ignore this aspect. It\u2019s not what we believe that matters most, but that we acknowledge the existence of this third aspect of our humanity. When we do that, our own personal journey usually takes over. Bottom line: live with balance between all three\u23afbody, <strong>mind<\/strong>, and spirit.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>18. It\u2019s Okay to Fail\u23afEveryone Else Has<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>So everyone fails. The difference is in what they do after they fail. Expect to fail, and know that only in trying and failing will we ultimately succeed. Then, after it happens, pick yourself up and keep moving forward. And know that you\u2019re in good company.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>19. Life Is Simpler When We Know What\u2019s Essential<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>You can make your own list of essential things. The point of this lesson is to know what they are\u23afand live by them. You\u2019ll find your life will be far simpler than you ever thought possible.<br \/>\n<img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft\" style=\"border: 0px none\" title=\"life lessons\" src=\"https:\/\/ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com\/widgets\/q?_encoding=UTF8&amp;ASIN=B000FC0R4C&amp;Format=_SL160_&amp;ID=AsinImage&amp;MarketPlace=US&amp;ServiceVersion=20070822&amp;WS=1&amp;tag=lmlrn-20\" alt=\"life lessons\" width=\"104\" height=\"160\" border=\"0\" \/><\/p>\n<h4><strong>20. Being Good Is What We&#8217;re Best At<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>What Hal Urban is trying to get across is that we\u2019re meant to be good. It\u2019s what we do best, and it\u2019s what does us best. Which means that if we are to strive to be complete people, we simply can\u2019t ignore the importance of being good.<\/p>\n<p>So there you have it: <strong>20 huge life lessons<\/strong>, all rolled into 20 little bite-sized morsels. But you should know this is only a taste of what\u2019s in the book. Hal Urban has a talent for using stories and fantastic real-life examples to uphold his points, so I can\u2019t recommend enough going out there and picking up his book. It\u2019s not even long. But it will make you think.<\/p>\n<p>What <strong>life lessons<\/strong> do you live by that aren&#8217;t mentioned here? 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