Are you really tired of the everyday fights whenever your boyfriend sees you with another guy? Does he get angry just by seeing you laugh, joke, or party with other men? Well then, you really need to figure out the grounds for such jealousy!
Understanding
Jealousy is a very obvious emotion for a person in a relationship but only within the limits of cute-love-cares. You never know when talking with other guys might turn into serious trouble to you. It is said that a man who is not jealous is not in love but you really need to make sure if it is so. You have to make it certain that the things bothering him today are just as normal as in any relationship, before you become his obsession and he, a brain-sick. Watch out that his concerns are nothing to do with your actions and that you are playing loyal on your side. It is said that prevention is better than cure, look for the early symptoms of jealousy, treat them at handy and amend your ways if in case they are actually the cause of his anxieties. He might be caring and possessive but make it sure that it remains healthy. It is not bad being jealous after all, but take it to your advantage and make him long for you, but not too long.
Speak up your troubles
Your boyfriend might be unaware of your uncomfortable situation. Talk to him about how his constantly sceptical ways are bothering you and make him talk too. Before you start being disgusted of his unannounced behaviours, try to look deep into the trouble and know the root cause as to what might be his real worries. Do not go insane over his every question about the other guy you hang out after the school or share a drink or two with. Try asking him the reason behind his insecurities and have a healthy discussion over it. Clear all his doubts and worries. It might be his ex-girlfriend who was a veritable nightmare or fear of you dumping him for the other guy or simply his own mind that troubles him. It might be a form of delusion or an overvalued idea in the name of possessiveness and if that is the case, than you need to watch-out. It might even be a serious mental disorder.
Think before concluding anything
Before getting to any conclusion about you being extremely claustrophobic, see if you are the one that is really responsible for his insecurities or not. Jealousy, on a broader term is a serious psychiatric disorder, where a person holds a strong delusional belief that their partners are being unfaithful without having any, or very little or insignificant proof to back up their claim. Make sure that you do not add up to the worse and do not land him in even more scornful pity. See to it that there is nothing from your side that is likely to trigger his anxieties and insecurities. It is not bad to have things personal, but hiding things that you must not will him even more prone to aggression. Open up with him and talk to him about how he wants the things to be sorted for a happy relationship.
Keep love alive
Your boyfriend might be a serious victim of the obsession and possessiveness beyond normal or he might be just in being in this state of jealousy. It is really needed that you make him overcome his anxieties about you being disloyal. It might be your infidelity that is churning him. Make him trust you on your words. Hangout with him other than cafeterias and spend some quality time with him more than you do with your friends. Next time you are on a shopping spree, drop the idea of taking your girlfriends along with you and rather ask him to company you and let him make his choice for your dresses. Let him pick that lacy black bikini for you or just a simple polo neck dress. Go and pick up his favourite fragrance, make him little heart confetti, and spend time together watching romantic movies , you never know when he might fall for a naughty scheme of yours. Tell him that you are not going to be inmate of his self cooked stories. Mean it when you say him that You Love Him.
Drop your ego
EGO is the only requirement to destroy any relationship. Take a step, be bigger person, drop that E and let it GO. You might love a lot but that would be a waste if you fail at confronting him with your feelings properly. If your egos do not settle with his pecking, then there is no way out to saving your day. Find out the rationality behind his overgrowing jealousy and over-possessiveness and erase them with a healthy conclusion. Do not feel chafed over his constant nagging but be calm and talk out the matter peacefully. Ask him what he wants from you so that you can negotiate a little on his jealousy. So next time he takes enjoys a football game, be a good company, think before you compare him with the other guy that have a nice dressing sense. Keep it away with a smile when you do not like his friends joining and spoiling your date. Do not let him feel neglected and find time to relax in weekend. You do not really want to lose him. Go back and kill that green-eyed-monster.
