Do not let your newborn kill the romance in your relation

The birth of a new life brings joy to a couple, a child is not just a reflection of the relationship but it is also the next level to the promises and vows that a couple exchanges in front of the alter. As much as there is a joy with the incoming of a new life on one side, the responsibilities and duties that come along with a kid do consume time. This in turn leaves barely any time for the couple to be with each other.

Less time spent can lead to a drift


For a relationship to sustain, it is very important that the couple should have time for each other. This can be a little challenging when you have a new born to deal with. There are many cases where a couple tends to drift away from each other because of the lack of time they share between themselves.

As much as it is important to take care of your child’s needs, it is equally important to give time to your relation. Even a relationship is a child that requires constant nourishment, love, care and quality time for it to grow. Monetary requirements will always be there, but there is a lot more than just money that can ruin your marriage. Today men and women are equally playing a vital role in the ensuring that the house runs well.

As a team, they work together to ensure that all the bills are paid on time and every expense of the house is looked into. Just as how this responsibility is distributed, similarly, the responsibilities of the new born can also be distributed so that there is enough time devoted for the child as well as for each other.

The common problems faced by couples after the birth of their child

new born If you look at most of the failed marriages, the root of the problem is not because of two people who cannot share the same roof. In fact, it is because the time was not given to each other in the right way. Most of the time, it is one person who goes above and beyond their limit to show that they care, the other person is engrossed with all the responsibilities and chores that they do not have time even for themselves.  Here are some of the most common problems that couples face after a new born comes into the picture.

They lose their spontaneity

spontaneity issue

The spontaneity in a relation helps to bring in a surprise element, however, with a child in the picture, it takes a drastic step back. Couples start to compromise on basic activities that helped them to bond such as date nights, surprise road trips, quality time with each other.

The financial burden takes a toll


The incoming of a child means many expenses that you have to look into. Apart from the necessities, you also need to start planning for the future and dealing with the growing expenses and standard of living. Sometimes the burden falls on one person and this in turn results to frustration, irritation and a drift between couples.

The struggle of being in power and controlling each other

power game

As a parent, you would want the best for your child. Sometimes this want can take a different toll on the relationships. While on one end both of you may want the best for your child however, the power game of being in control also comes into the picture. The natural tendency of dictating terms comes in and this in turn affects the relationship.

To be better parents you have to have a happy marriage

happy marriage

In order to be better parents, it is equally important that you have to have a happy and satisfying married life. When you talk about satisfaction, it is not about catering to the physical needs but also keeping in mind the emotional and wellbeing of your partner in every way.

Just as how it takes two people to bring in a life, similarly, it is essential that both the partners play an active role in taking over the responsibilities of caring for their child. By making a few changes, sharing the responsibilities and spending time with each other you can still have the same relationship you share with your partner even after your child has come into this world.

Dr Prem Jagyasi (c)

Dr Prem is an award winning strategic leader, renowned author, publisher and highly acclaimed global speaker. Aside from publishing a bevy of life improvement guides, Dr Prem runs a network of 50 niche websites that attracts millions of readers across the globe. Thus far, Dr Prem has traveled to more than 40 countries, addressed numerous international conferences and offered his expert training and consultancy services to more than 150 international organizations. He also owns and leads a web services and technology business, supervised and managed by his eminent team. Dr Prem further takes great delight in travel photography.

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