{"id":65546,"date":"2019-03-26T13:53:47","date_gmt":"2019-03-26T13:53:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/?p=65546"},"modified":"2020-10-07T10:38:40","modified_gmt":"2020-10-07T10:38:40","slug":"smart-ways-to-deal-with-defiant-and-rebellious-behavior-in-toddlers","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/smart-ways-to-deal-with-defiant-and-rebellious-behavior-in-toddlers\/","title":{"rendered":"Smart ways to deal with defiant and rebellious behavior in toddlers"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"38520354a5201685ddf480eec688e1a7\" data-index=\"1\" style=\"float: none; margin:10px 0 10px 0; text-align:center;\">\n<script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><\/script>\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block; text-align:center;\"\r\n     data-ad-layout=\"in-article\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"fluid\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-9477973674766713\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"8885944693\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script>\n<\/div>\n<p>Having a child has its own perks but also comes with its own challenges. As long as your child has not learnt to walk, things are still under control to some extent. However, the minute he\/she starts walking, exploring and understanding things; the entire picture changes. Tantrums, wanting their way and being fussy are just some of the <em><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/drprem.com\/life\/insubordination\">defiant and rebellious behavior<\/a> in toddlers<\/strong><\/em> that parents have to face.<!--more--><\/p>\n<h2>The reason behind defiant and rebellious behavior in toddlers<\/h2>\n<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-65626\" src=\"https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/rebellious-behavior-in-toddlers-2.jpg\" alt=\"rebellious behavior in toddlers\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/rebellious-behavior-in-toddlers-2.jpg 800w, https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/rebellious-behavior-in-toddlers-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/rebellious-behavior-in-toddlers-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/rebellious-behavior-in-toddlers-2-585x390.jpg 585w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>The kids of today mature a lot faster and become independent at a very early age. Even before they learn how to read, they already have a great deal of technical knowledge. The minute your child starts exploring new things, he\/she starts developing its own mind. Some kids just love their independence and do not like any interference. The main reason behind this is because of their curiosity to explore things. During this phase, it is natural for your child to be rebellious and defiant.<\/p>\n<h2>The behavioral pattern of children from Birth to three<\/h2>\n<p>Before you can understand how to <a href=\"https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/7-tips-deal-defiance-toddlers\/\">deal with a defiant toddler<\/a>; it is important to first understand the behavior patterns of toddlers. From birth to age 3, your child is undergoing a drastic change and there are many things happening at the same time. This is also the time when they are developing their skills and are impulsive as well. It is not that they are intentionally doing it, but it is just the age. To understand the behavioral issues, let us divide this section into two age groups:<\/p>\n<h2>Birth to Eighteen months<\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-65625\" src=\"https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/rebellious-behavior-in-toddlers-1.jpg\" alt=\"rebellious behavior in toddlers\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/rebellious-behavior-in-toddlers-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/rebellious-behavior-in-toddlers-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/rebellious-behavior-in-toddlers-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/rebellious-behavior-in-toddlers-1-585x390.jpg 585w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>This is the time when children are just plain impulsive. They often tend to give a deaf ear to what their parents say because they just do not understand rules. Kids of this age are yet to master the art of self-control. If they see something they want to get it only because they are attracted to it and nothing else. This is one of the main reasons why they tend to get rebellious.<\/p>\n<h2>How to deal with a rebellious toddler of this age?<\/h2>\n<p>During this age, you cannot expect your child to listen to you if you scream and shout at them. As a parent, you have to be really smart, calm and patient. One of the best oppositional defiant disorder strategies would be to redirect your child\u2019s mind.<\/p>\n<h3>For example<\/h3>\n<p>If your child is holding an object that is dangerous or just not right for him\/her; take the object away firmly but gently as well. Make your kid understand that certain things are off limit and acknowledge its feeling by saying something like:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI know that this (object or thing) is interesting and fun to play with; but this ( at this time give a safer object or toy to your child)\u00a0 is even better than that.\u201d<\/p><div class=\"38520354a5201685ddf480eec688e1a7\" data-index=\"2\" style=\"float: none; margin:10px 0 10px 0; text-align:center;\">\n<script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><\/script>\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block; text-align:center;\"\r\n     data-ad-layout=\"in-article\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"fluid\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-9477973674766713\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"8885944693\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script>\n<\/div>\n\n<h2>Eighteen to Thirty-six months<\/h2>\n<p>When a child turns eighteen months, it is the time when they slowly start to understand the term individuality. This is also the time when you get to see more defiant and rebellious behavior in toddlers. During this phase, a child tends to start developing his\/her own thoughts and feelings about things. They also want to develop a level of control on things that suit their needs and wants.<\/p>\n<h2>How to deal with a defiant toddler of this age?<\/h2>\n<p>One of the best ways on how to deal with defiant and rebellious behavior in toddlers at this age is to limit the <a href=\"https:\/\/drprem.com\/life\/discipline-vs-freedom\">control and independence<\/a>. Give them simple and small directions so that they listen to you. You would also need to create a little level of excitement so that your child listens to you.<\/p>\n<h3>For example<\/h3>\n<p>If your child goes to day care and on a given day he\/she just does not want to go; be ready for a tantrum. She\/he will surely say NO and will want to get their own way. To deal with such situations, you can say things like<\/p>\n<p>Well, I was planning to go to the (place that your kid loves the most) today. But if you\u2019re not going to go then we can just stay home. OR you can also catch on to a point about something that you kid loves in the day care center and say \u2013 Well, if you don\u2019t go today, then you would miss out on (whatever they like); I\u2019m sure you do not want that now, do you?<\/p>\n<h2>General tips and strategies to deal with defiant and rebellious behavior in toddlers<\/h2>\n<p>Let us look at a few oppositional defiant disorder strategies that can help you overcome defiant and rebellious behavior in toddlers.<\/p>\n<h3>1. Avoid screaming or raising your hand<\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-65629\" src=\"https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/Avoid-screaming-or-raising-your-hand.jpg\" alt=\"Avoid screaming or raising your hand\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/Avoid-screaming-or-raising-your-hand.jpg 800w, https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/Avoid-screaming-or-raising-your-hand-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/Avoid-screaming-or-raising-your-hand-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/Avoid-screaming-or-raising-your-hand-585x390.jpg 585w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>The first thing that you should remember on how to deal with a defiant toddler is to gain your toddlers confidence. By screaming or raising your hand, you are only fueling the fire. Remember that your child is at an age where he\/she<\/p>\n<h3>2. Find the root cause of the problem<\/h3>\n<p>When you are trying to find a solution on how to deal with a rebellious toddler; it is important to understand the root cause of such behavior. Dealing with a toddler is not easy; this is the age when the curiosity levels are its peak. In order to deal with defiant and rebellious behavior in toddlers, you have to be smart, patient, calm and composed.<\/p>\n<h3>3. Play smart instead of reacting to things<\/h3>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-65631\" src=\"https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/Play-smart-instead-of-reacting-to-things.jpg\" alt=\"Play smart instead of reacting to things\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/Play-smart-instead-of-reacting-to-things.jpg 800w, https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/Play-smart-instead-of-reacting-to-things-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/Play-smart-instead-of-reacting-to-things-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/54\/2019\/03\/Play-smart-instead-of-reacting-to-things-585x390.jpg 585w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>Thinking out of the box is one the best ways to get your child to listen to you. When you are tackling the defiant and rebellious behavior in toddlers; you have to know how to play smart. By screaming, shouting or hitting your child; you will reach nowhere.<\/p>\n<h2>A final thought on defiant and rebellious behavior in toddlers<\/h2>\n<p>You need to find a better approach on coming up with innovative ways on how to deal with a rebellious toddler. It does take a lot of patience, a calm mind and a never give up attitude to crack the ice. 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