{"id":443,"date":"2012-01-17T11:43:14","date_gmt":"2012-01-17T11:43:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.parentingclan.com\/?p=443"},"modified":"2021-06-12T09:53:03","modified_gmt":"2021-06-12T09:53:03","slug":"delusional-pursuit-perfection-top-7-problems-faced-teenagers","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/delusional-pursuit-perfection-top-7-problems-faced-teenagers\/","title":{"rendered":"Delusional pursuit of perfection: Top 7 problems faced by teenagers"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"38520354a5201685ddf480eec688e1a7\" data-index=\"1\" style=\"float: none; margin:10px 0 10px 0; text-align:center;\">\n<script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><\/script>\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block; text-align:center;\"\r\n     data-ad-layout=\"in-article\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"fluid\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-9477973674766713\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"8885944693\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script>\n<\/div>\n<p>The pursuit of perfection and the pursuit of happiness have a lot in common. The most important similarity is the fact that perfection and happiness lie not at the destination but in the journey. This pursuit is more intense among the teenagers for two reasons. Firstly, they have youthful energy, enthusiasm and passion that allows them to be more intense and secondly, they lack the maturity, experience and wisdom of the adults. This leads to fights and struggles among the teens to create an identity for themselves and &#8216;shine&#8217; in the society. This has led to several problems. Though these problems can be discussed in isolation, they can never be resolved in isolation for they are all inter-connected.<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>1. Narcissism<\/b><\/p>\n<p>The problem of narcissism is highly prevalent with the guys trying to build macho bodies and the girls trying to get curvaceous figure. One of the biggest problem with teens today is the obsession with the body (or the total lack of it). There lies the danger that those who are not able to achieve the same, get depressed and go into overdrive. Binge eating and obesity is the result of such reaction. This obsession with the body has resulted in some dangerous trends like salon tanning, tattooing, body piercing etc.<\/p>\n<p><b>2. Identity Crisis<\/b><\/p>\n<p>&#8221;Who am I&#8221; is the question that plagues every teenager. With a wide array of career choices and opportunities being available and vaunted as the best, the teenager is at a loss. The focus on the unseen future with the fear of past, take away the gifts of the present moment. &#8216;Being&#8217; gets lost in &#8216;becoming&#8217; and the teenager is in danger of never being able to realize who he\/she really is. To realize one&#8217;s potential, one has to understand that the past is history and the future is a mystery. The present is a gift and that&#8217;s why it is called so.<\/p>\n<p><b>3. Work-Play balance<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Teens seem to evolve into one of the two molds &#8211; the bookworm or the sports dullard. Since excelling in a particular area is what seems to matter ( like Universities picking up students sheerly on football skills), the balance is forgotten. The teen with the aptitude for academics totally gives up on games and sports and vice-versa. A harmony and balance is what every teen must strike, for a healthy mind stays in a healthy body and a healthy body can remain so only if there is a healthy mind.<\/p><div class=\"38520354a5201685ddf480eec688e1a7\" data-index=\"2\" style=\"float: none; margin:10px 0 10px 0; text-align:center;\">\n<script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><\/script>\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block; text-align:center;\"\r\n     data-ad-layout=\"in-article\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"fluid\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-9477973674766713\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"8885944693\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script>\n<\/div>\n\n<p><b>4. Pressure of parental expectations<\/b><\/p>\n<p>The world today is very competitive and the struggle to be among the fittest to survive is on. In such a scenario, almost every teenager puts in a lot of efforts. However, parents can get very cruel towards teenagers, when it comes to judging them and subjecting them to pressures. This happens because of a fundamental flaw. The teens are always judged based on the results produced and not on the efforts put in. Everything is result-oriented and this supports those who are born skilled and talented. This can cause serious emotional trauma for those who try a lot and do not &#8216;succeed&#8217; in the eyes of their parents.<\/p>\n<p><b>5. Social pressure<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Defining one&#8217;s own self and not sticking to the flock, results in stardom only in rare cases. More often than not, the one who does not fly with the pack becomes a social outcast. And then begins the race to have the latest designer clothes, gadgets, automobiles to make fashion statement. Drugs, smoking, drinking alcohol and sex have developed an aura around them and teens feel socially pressurized to be &#8216;cool&#8217; by indulging in these activities. The company of the teen define what the teen is and will become.<\/p>\n<p><b>6. Spirituality<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Developing one&#8217;s spiritual side is as important as developing ones physical and mental prowess. It is the spiritual side that lends a balance and harmony to the mental and physical capabilities. Stability of the mind can only be achieved through spirituality. This is exhibited in being good, seeing good and doing good. Loving all and serving all and ensuring that one does not hurt anyone.<\/p>\n<p><b>7. Search for role models<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Having a hero on whom the teen can model himself\/herself is good. It helps the teen to achieve greater heights in life. It will also help in achieving success faster. But picking a role model is a tricky task. True success is always based on virtues and only a virtuous role model is worthy of emulation. The stardom that comes from money, skills, talent, fame and adoration is short-lived. 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