{"id":20944,"date":"2013-10-02T12:09:11","date_gmt":"2013-10-02T12:09:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.parentingclan.com\/?p=20944"},"modified":"2021-06-01T11:33:21","modified_gmt":"2021-06-01T11:33:21","slug":"in-parenting-when-is-it-ok-to-say-i-dont-know","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/drprem.com\/guide\/in-parenting-when-is-it-ok-to-say-i-dont-know\/","title":{"rendered":"In Parenting, When Is It OK to Say \u2018I Don\u2019t Know\u2019?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"38520354a5201685ddf480eec688e1a7\" data-index=\"1\" style=\"float: none; margin:10px 0 10px 0; text-align:center;\">\n<script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><\/script>\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block; text-align:center;\"\r\n     data-ad-layout=\"in-article\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"fluid\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-9477973674766713\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"8885944693\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script>\n<\/div>\n<p>In some families, parents rule with an iron fist. Kids expect parents to know everything but sometimes it is ok to admit that you don\u2019t know because you are a human being and not someone with supernatural power who has all the answers.<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p><b>Why it is important to say \u201cI don\u2019t know\u2019?<\/b><\/p>\n<p>When the person in charge is all-knowing, everyone gets rocked in a hammock of implicit security. The kids might not always like what Mom decrees, but they know there\u2019s little point in arguing. And by teaching her brood it\u2019s futile to question her, Mom gets to enjoy a little peace. In a large, busy family make that in\u00a0any<i>\u00a0<\/i>family cutting down on stress and strife holds serious allure. In the book:\u201dI don\u2019t know\u201d Leah Hager Cohen says it is ok to admit to kids that you don\u2019t know. She explains couple of situation and provides examples.<\/p><div class=\"38520354a5201685ddf480eec688e1a7\" data-index=\"2\" style=\"float: none; margin:10px 0 10px 0; text-align:center;\">\n<script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><\/script>\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block; text-align:center;\"\r\n     data-ad-layout=\"in-article\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"fluid\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-9477973674766713\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"8885944693\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script>\n<\/div>\n\n<p>Her infinite willingness to entertain doubt has become something of a family joke. The kids do wicked impressions of my waffling discursions. They cock their heads, twist their mouths sideways, and squint contemplatively. And they\u2019ve learned when they really need an answer to cut her off:\u00a0Just tell me yes or no, they\u2019ll plead. The fact is, no matter how strongly she believes something, and she has difficulty shutting the door on alternate perspectives. When the issue involves global politics or social justice or the complexities of workplace communications, this tendency may be beneficial. When the issue is whether to let a kid watch an extra half hour of TV, even I realize it can be a bit much.<\/p>\n<p>So do you prefer authoritarian model of parenting or do you believed in holding family meetings at which everyone from the littlest person to the biggest got to weigh in? You can ask more questions than answers. \u00a0You don\u2019t have to position yourselves as the answer-keepers. By inviting and insisting your kid\u2019s participation, you are asking them to take responsibility for thinking: about their desires, about their commitments, and about how to balance the two.<\/p>\n<p>Parenting itself is a balancing act. Without presenting yourselves as all knowing, you will be indisputably in charge. 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