Life would be so simpler and problem free if you could just ask yourself the reason for your action and decide rationally that whether what you are doing is correct or not. Trust me this will prevent you from taking any stupid decision and so you will not regret any of your actions in the future and can live peacefully.
If you are among those people who say yes to everything they are asked to do and then keep regretting your decision this article will help you immensely .I have seen it myself that people who are suffering with this yes syndrome suffer terribly in life .They are always busy helping others, saying yes to every request, always offering their shoulders to their friends to cry on , always taking care of all the acquaintances never really get time for themselves .They are so busy offering their time and services to others that at the end of the day they never have time to think about their own life or share their problems. Also imagine the pain they will suffer when those people for whom they were always available refuse to help them in their times of need.
So never take any decision or never do anything in life without giving it a thought. Always ask yourself this one question and act according to the answer you get back from your own brain or your own heart! There may be times when there might be a conflict between the two in such a case do what your heart says only after allowing your brain to examine the effect it has on you.
What Reasons Provoke You to Act?
Remember there are a few reasons and a few situations which will force you to act impatiently or take a quick decision at times. At times like this you need to act more wisely and be more patient because every step you take matters!
- One of the most common reasons that will compel you to act immediately is that “everyone you know is doing the same thing”. Now at times like this keep reminding yourself that just because everyone is doing the same thing does not really mean you will have to do the same. The situations and the conditions that might be favorable to others might be the cause of your discomfort. Never do something just because everyone else is doing it and they seem to like it.
- To avoid opposition of the others might be another reason which will force you to do something that you don’t want to do or should not do. Now come on be logical just because your colleagues or your friends don’t approve your decision doesn’t mean you should not do it. Your friends or colleagues might have a selfish motive behind asking you to change your decision. So if you really want to do something that is correct but are hesitating because of this, don’t, because it is your satisfaction that matters above everything. But yes if what you are doing is wrong and that is the reason they are opposing you and then you don’t pay a heed to what they are saying that will be a very selfish act on your part.
- You might have to do something just because the one who is asking you to do it is older that you and saying no to them might annoy them or you don’t want to disrespect them. Ask yourself does this person really deserve the respect I am giving him, has he really proved his worth in life. If the answer is yes then chances are that even if you don’t want to do it, they are saying it because it might be of some benefit to you. But even then don’t blindly follow the instructions; use your own brain and rationalism before taking the final decision.
“I do not think, sir, you have any right to command me, merely because you are older than I, or because you have seen more of the world than I have; your claim to superiority depends on the use you have made of your time and experience.” – Charlotte Brontë, “Jane Eyre”
- More Pleasure and less pain- the three major reasons that make them take actions in life. People have a tendency to do things which are within their comfort zones .This can cause problems in the future. Taking decision or doing things no matter right or wrong just because you are comfortable in doing them can turn out to give disastrous results in future. To run away from a job because it seems tough is not only a coward’s job but also stupidity because it can prove to be really fruitful later in future.
How to Avoid Rash Decisions?
Always remember to ask yourself two things before saying yes to anything and those are “Should I really do this?” ”Do I really want to do this?” Now there is a lot of difference between ‘wanting to‘and, should you’ .Doing something because you should, indicates it to be more of a duty and never hesitate to do something you should. Now if you want to do something ask yourself “why” and consider all the pros and cons of your action and do it if it is going to benefit you but avoid doing something if the chances are that it will harm you or your reputation. Now doing something just for the sake of helping your friend or the ones in need, do it only after keeping yourself on a safe side and avoid helping the friends who don’t value them or have taken it for granted.
I don’t need to tell you what impact a correct decision and a worthy action can have on your life. Follow these few simple steps to avoid regretting your actions in future and you can also save your reputation and even make it better in front of others by wisely choosing your course of actions.
“Those who will not reason are bigots, those who cannot, are fools, and those who dare not, are slaves.”
― George Gordon Byron
