Except for the times when you are depressed in love and love myths work wonders to pacify you, they appear silly, overly romantic and overly optimistic. Here are some of them debunked for you:
The right person will meet all my needs
Believing in this particular love myth is a disaster, as it adds on to life frustrations. You start expecting so much out of your partner that he feels burdened. No matter how good your soul mate is, he/she can never be a sole source of your need satisfaction. For satiating yourself completely, you need not rely solely on him but on God, friends, family and such other sources.
We only get one chance to love
I personally simply refuse to believe in the one chance to love theory. Many a times you love a person and you don’t even let him/her know because of your lack of guts or because they make it so obvious that the feeling is not mutual. Then again, you happen to fall in love with someone and this time, the feeling is mutual. Therefore, how on earth one could believe in the fake one chance to love in life myth.
Happy couples don’t fight
Conflict is a fact of life, so believing that happy couples do not fight simply means that they do not exist. Arguing over conflicts is natural; in fact, healthy argument is beneficial for relationships. That way you communicate your feelings and your mentality to your partner. On the other hand, no fight or argument in a relationship will only mean that you do not care what your partner says or believes and you don’t feel like telling them what you feel inside.
Love is saying, “I love you” often
Asking your partner quite often whether he loves you and making him repeat the answer many a times in a day is not love. You need not poke your partner repeatedly to remind him that he loves you. It is something that is deep there in his heart and he need not prove it to you by saying I love You time and again. More than this, if you pay close attention to his actions, you will be in a better position to judge whether he truly loves you or not.
Love is another name for sacrifice
Love is a pure feeling and there is no way that it is another name for sacrifice. Sacrifice means to give up something that you value and if you think love will make you sacrifice something, then it is clearly not love. Love never creates a situation where you have to give up on something you value the most. A loving partner will never want or make you let go of something you treasure. In fact, he will do everything to make you cherish that treasure for your entire life.
Jealousy, Thy name is love
Many couples in their best efforts to cover up their insecurities, weak bonding and distrust say that jealousy is just another form of love. Love is a selfless emotion and misunderstanding it for jealousy is a big mistake. If you love your partner truly, you will enjoy and his happiness and success just as he does, you will accept his family, friends and everything else like they are your own. The love will be so strong and real leaving no space for a negative emotion like jealousy. There is no room for jealousy in a real love relationship, let alone thinking of it as just another name for love.
Love myths are harmless provided we do not start relating to them for real. If we do, they start deluding our senses, eventually preventing us from having balanced and healthy relationships.
