You chose your friends wisely keeping their habit, behaviors and attitude in mind, so do many others around you. It is necessary to maintain good habits to keep yourself in the good books of those who care about you. There are certain habits you might be cultivating without even realizing. These habits could push people away from you if you do not correct them with time.
Envy
When you get jealous of others, you actually start counting their blessings instead of your own. This only leads you to frustration that further intertwines you into a web of judgments. The fact of the matter is that the only person you have a real competition with is you eventually. Instead of getting envious, you should compare your own growth during the course of life.
Take things personally
Everything people always say and do can’t be about you since each one of us have a natural tendency to focus on their own life rather than others. Even when someone makes a comment regarding you, it has to do with their opinion about you but it can’t possibly define your real self. Life becomes beautiful when you stop taking everything personally. It does not mean that you should not entertain or avoid feedback from others but excess of it would always turn things upside down.
The poor self
Once you start posing as a poor you, it turns into a habit, which takes away your self-confidence and the feeling of self-worth. You are as powerful as you think you are. Even if people sympathies with you, it keeps killing your real self. Taking control of life does not require you to be the strongest but it simply takes a strong determination and belief.
Constant negativity
People run away from you if you have a negative mindset that seeks only negativity in almost everything. Most people always love to be around those who cheer them up, motivate them and give them a hope for a better tomorrow. It’s all right If your are negative about a particular life event but constant negativity is harmful for you and those who stick around you.
Vulnerability
Vulnerability is a virtue until it is within limits. If you start losing your cool at every little thing, it’s get difficult for others to cope with you. Develop a control over your emotions or learn ways to channelize it in correct form. The strength of your emotions could also fill you with inner desire to achieve something in your life; you need to learn the art to utilize it in right direction.
Low self-worth
Your tendency to strive for validation by others is a sign of low self-worth. You decide your own value not others. The habit of getting obsessed with everything in life could eventually put all your relationships at stake. Your constant efforts to prove yourself to others can be annoying for your friends.
Hide the real self
People can hardly relate or connect with you if disguise yourself to get closer to others. You can’t really feel accepted until you come out of the your shell embracing the reality, then only those who admire you in real sense would embrace you. No matter, how weird you are in actual sense, each one of us is beautiful skin deep.
Unauthentic Judgment
Stop judging others based on limited information. Someone who wants you to suffer could actually be making your stronger preparing you for the big day of your life or possibly may have gone through the same phase.
It is necessary to sneak up on the habits that lie deep down inside us even without our realizing the fact. The things that irritate you in someone else could possibly be in your own personality.
