A difficult man can be passive, controlling and erratic in his behavior. With your presence of mind, patience and intelligence, you can comfortably deal with such men in your life.
Retaliate at the right time
It is difficult to make such a person realize about his mistakes, but accepting everything can increase his tendency to rule out others wishes and reasons. So, stop taking everything he says and start retaliating. Make him realize that it is not his point of view that makes the world a better place to live. Every individual has his/her own outlook towards everything and they can be different in the likes and dislikes. You should try to make him understand that you are not a fool and have your own perspective and intelligence to deal with things around. Once spoken clearly and reminded every time he tries to cross his limits, can suppress his attitude of making others see what he sees.
Donât get trapped
Such men can try to convince you giving all sorts of reasons and preaching. Do not fall into their trap. Why should you do anything which kills your own ethics and ideals? Remember, once you allow them to get a start, they will keep on using the same logic and tantrums again and again. So stop them at their first try itself. It can cause some passive or impulsive reactions, but all that will be for once and the next time onwards they wonât try it on you. You have to make them realize that their outlook is not going to impress you.
Stop being an emotional buff
Difficult men have a common habit to attract sympathy of people by relating their sad past life and the pains they had taken to reach the level they are in. Make them aware that their life is no different from all of us as everyone faces bad times in his/her life and most of us fight back to achieve our goals. Once you stop sympathizing with such men, they will stop giving you their emotional cracks. Remember, no oneâs bad past or traumas justify his bad way towards others. You have to make such a person realize that respect is only gained by respecting others. And if he wants to be respected and accepted, he should start respecting your views and wishes.
Talk to your friends
Sometimes, we end up being very lost and cannot decide things on our own. It is perfectly natural until we start making this our habit. To think rationally in such situations, look for your close friends and explain them your situations. Take their advice and, if needed, their physical presence to tackle difficult men in your life. In their company, you can probably deal with these men in the proper and required way with mutual discussions and talks. Friends are there to share and care; do not feel embarrassed while calling them out for help. They will always be there for you.
You should know when to quit
You cannot keep on lagging with someone who has made his habit to lag. In the same way, you cannot keep on trying to improve a difficult man who has thought to stay like that ever. Initial tries should make you realize how much more you can try. If you think that nothing done by you is helping either of you two, it is time to move on! It is better to stay away and maintain your own sanity than losing it to someone who doesnât even deserve it. Do not keep holding on to a boat with a hole in its base; otherwise, it will make you sink too.
