Parents might justify bullying by calling it âadmonishingâ necessary to keep children on track. The fact is that for a child, such a behavior is very hard to cope-up with. If you are a child who gets bullied too often by parents, it is very easy to slip into depression. However, the best thing would be to try and take charge of the situation. It may take time but it is the only viable solution.
Avoid arguing when your parents want you to listen
It may seem like another suggestion out of a âhow to be a good childâ book. Following this would go a long way in helping you control a situation and in keeping a tab on your dad or momâs anger. Barging in between when your parents are talking to you, or forcing your comment, could make things worse in the heat of moment. Aggressive parents canât stand the sight of their children answering them back. They take the child to be obstinate and try to reinforce their words. In such a situation sometimes they may actually create a ruckus just to make the child understand that the parentsâ authority cannot be undermined. While in rage, it would be really hard for you to explain your point to your parent. So just relax. Let the storm pass and then you can explain yourself to them.
Donât lose your confidence
Generally parentsâ say all sort of things in a fit of rage, telling the child how common, ordinary or bad mannered he or she is. It is important for you to understand that this is nothing more than an opinion. While you may not be expected to get it corrected, you can always form a good opinion about yourself and have faith in what you do. This would help you in maintaining your individuality and gradually your parentsâ would also start accepting this; provided they see you behaving well. Bullying or using strong words for their own children is a reaction. There might be any reason behind that reaction. You would have to understand that even when your dad is talking to you on top of his voice, he is giving you an advice or pointing some shortcoming. So in his mind he is actually doing something for your betterment. No, it doesnât mean that these means are right! Itâs just that the intention behind it is often not bad as the measure. So there is no reason to punish yourself by feeling insulted. Rather learn to avoid any such situation.
Open up with a friend or an elder
Talking your heart out is important to keep negative emotions out of your head. You may feel bad about your parentsâ scolding or humiliating you. But donât keep all of this buried in your heart. Talk to someone who you have faith on, but be careful about whosoever you trust for this. A fair view from someoneâs part would help you understand things better and would relieve you of some tension. So, discuss it with someone who may shoulder your pain but not aggravate it by asking you to divulge more and more details. Sharing it or not should be your personal choice. In any case, talk to people, make friends and do not ignore socializing. It helps a lot in reducing stress.
Donât avoid your parents
Children tend to avoid one or both the parents if they do too much nit-picking or pin-pointing. This is one of the worst things that you can do. While you may feel bad about being hounded, you should not try to avoid them.
Identify the situations that upset your parents
A few situations may irk your parents more. A fact is that every child gets to know about the things that his or her parents arenât tolerant to. Your mom may get irritated when you reach home hours after the school gets over, or your father may react at some other thing. An important point is to understand this. Avoid it as much as you can. Though you can always talk to them about things that you love to do and they donât. This would help you all in reaching a solution. Many parents follow the older school of thought that believes kids should be brought up with all the strictness possible. So, you may have to make lots of efforts to win their faith. There is a possibility of parents being harsher towards kids because they feel a little insecure about the kind of steps their kids may take. Your small steps like asking for your parentsâ advice may help them in trusting you.
