A bitter relationship is liked by none. You might have got a bitter taste in your mouth from the last relationship. Yet, with time you might have just decided to move on. Unfortunately though you find your manipulative ex wife trying to create disturbances even in your present relationship. How would you deal with it? Here are a few pieces of advice which will help you.
Your manipulative ex wife might be very cunning and would try to blackmail you. She might threaten to reveal some personal details or moments you two had to your present wife. Even then, you shouldn’t give in to your manipulative ex wife’s whims fearing that your present wife would not like the revelations. You should be calm, composed and make it known clearly to your ex wife that you would not accede to her demands. It is always better to clear up things in your present relationship. Take a proper time and divulge these personal details to your present wife yourself. If you do not, then chances are your manipulative ex wife would one day take the cat out of the bag and your wife would probably be a lot hurt then.
Know what you are doing
Your manipulative ex wife might try many measures to mess up your life. So, she might want to try to again get physical with you or she might flirt with you too. Yet, do not ever reciprocate to her. She might try to get very sentimental and emotional, and would try to divert your mind to past memories, yet you should not fall for her trap. Remember, if you do reciprocate to her supposed ‘feelings’, you would be putting your present relationship in danger. Any fine day, your ex wife might start blackmailing you and asking you for many ‘favors’, which you would then not be able to refuse. So, be careful and always know the repercussions off your actions. If you are not, the situations might get bitter later on which surely you wouldn’t want.
It is easy to get lost in the land of dreams. Your ex might just want to ‘get lost in dreams’, so that she can take advantage of the situation. She might tell you about how beautiful the days were when you were together and how much she loved you. She might tell you about how much she misses you and how you two could still stay together. She would come up with a thousand possible circumstances through which you two could again be together. With all this talk, she would try to rouse your feelings so that you commit a mistake. In these circumstances, be practical. Know that the relationship has ended and now you have your own wife to look after. Don’t fall in for dreams and fantasies, and stick to the reality.
Love your wife
This is another ploy that could be used by your manipulative ex wife. She might constantly compare herself with your present wife. She would portray many reasons as to why she feels she is better than your present wife. She might tell how much you mean to her and how your present wife do not take proper care of you. She might even give examples to demonstrate her love for you. Yet, even when she does all this, you need to be composed and not fall for her trap. If your manipulative ex wife really did love you this much, why did the break up take place? Why wasn’t she caring then enough so that the situation could have been sorted out amicably? You would be opening a tin of worms if you fall for her trap. Love your present wife and stop having any contact with your ex wife.
Believe in yourself
Lastly, always have the confidence in yourself. Your manipulative ex wife might try to show that you took a very wrong decision by breaking up with her. Your ex wife might tell you about how better off things could have been if you had stayed with her. She might tell you that it was wrong on your part to marry off someone else after leaving her. Yet, never lose confidence in your actions. You should know deep in your heart that the actions you took were the best possible at that certain point of time. So, even if the actions do not seem to have been the best at this point of time, you should be happy. Whatever has happened has happened. Instead of trying to relive a lost relationship, concentrate on making your present relationship a success.