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How to deal with humiliation

Humiliation is the result of the degradation of an individual’s pride or dignity. It can invoke strong feelings of embarrassment and shame. Different individuals cope with humiliations in a different manner. Violent reactions are extremes, but not very uncommon. There are certain ways in which you can deal with humiliation effectively.

Ignore the person humiliating you

This is very difficult, but one way of effectively dealing with humiliation is to say nothing. Simply walk away from the situation even though you may be seething with anger inside. This is often termed as the “less said the better” approach. If the moment gets over as soon as it happens then you can escape the public examination. The audience always likes some degree of gossip but if the moment dies immediately then there will be zero effect. At the time of humiliation you will be dying a thousand deaths but the final victory will be yours if you prefer to keep quiet and ignore the person completely.

Make fun of the situation

There is another way by which you can handle such situations: use of humor. The best way to diffuse a situation is to make a joke and get the audience to laugh. You can put the one humiliating in the wrong foot by just uttering the words ‘Thank You’ as soon as he has finished humiliating you. He will be taken aback by your attitude and this will help to ease the tension between you two.

Don’t react angrily

The most viable way to deal with humiliation is not to react with anger. Being angry will do no good; in fact, it is often considered as a dead end approach. If you can answer with a witty retort, then it’s different but you may do a world of good to yourself if you just don’t react angrily. Always remember that when someone deliberately humiliates you, he actually ends up humiliating himself. Humiliating someone in public is a disgraceful act and looked down upon by everybody. So when you do not react with anger you have actually taught him/her a hard lesson of life.

Don’t think about it

This is a common mistake made by all. Humans tend to think a lot about what others think. I know it is very difficult to forget these episodes but it is not impossible. The more you think about that humiliation the more you will feel bad about it. You just need to forget about this and get on with your other work. We are not advocating treating these issues as trivial but it surely does not merit so much attention. Even if you brood about it throughout the day, the damage cannot be overturned. Don’t just give any thought to it and move on with your life.

Do not hide

If you have been humiliated, the last thing that should come to your mind is ‘hiding’. Maybe you were humiliated in front of your crush or girlfriend/boyfriend but that does not mean that you will run away from them and hide. Do not start avoiding them just because they were present at the unfortunate moment. It is not their fault and this attitude will not help you in any way. Be mature and face them.

Dr Prem Jagyasi

Dr Prem Jagyasi

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Author of several life improving guide books – Dr Prem is an award winning strategic global leader, successful chartered consultant, personal branding expert and global trainer.  Dr Prem has traveled to more than 40 countries to work with above 150 international organisations and to speak in global conferences. Dr Prem has published several guide books and numerous niche websites which have millions of reader across the globe.
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