Home | Behavior | How to Deal with a Grumpy Neighbour?
How to Deal with a Grumpy Neighbour

How to Deal with a Grumpy Neighbour?

You can avoid the world, you can hide from your relatives but you cannot really escape from the eyes of your neighbors. So if you want to lead your life in peace then it is necessary to make sure that you share the most cordial relationships with your neighbors. Otherwise they might just make your life a living hell. This is easier said than done as they are some of the most grumpiest and difficult of creatures and can really be a pain in the neck at all times. Dealing with them while maintaining a calm and happy exterior could become the task of a lifetime for you. Such neighbors seem to exist on the face of this earth for the single purpose of bugging you all the time and making you lose your cool.

Facing off against such people and handling them on a regular basis might just be the worst nightmare any being could face but sometimes you just cannot help it if you have got such an irritating neighborhood as it would not be considered sensible if you changed your house or locality simply because your neighbors are like that. Though difficult, it is not really impossible to handle such people. You just need to use the right tactics to get away from them, all the while living near them with ease. Here are some quick tips that might prove to be helpful for you in order to make your life easier in the presence of those grouchy neighbors –

Know them to control them

The first rule is to know why your neighbor is acting in the way they are. Are they really like this by nature or is it just you who is receiving this kind of treatment from them? Are they jealous of you because of something or are they holding some deep-seated grudges against you? Do they have some personal issues that made them the way they are? Are they really that bad from the inside too or is it just a façade to show to the world? Well, these are just a few of the questions that you can try and search answers for. You should know everything there is to know about your neighbours before you even think of dealing with them. Try getting to know what you can about them from your other neighbors with whom you are more comfortable if you are new to the locality.

You have to know them to tackle them. If you do not have sufficient information about them, you might end up becoming their favorite target!

Learn the art of avoiding and smiling

Though it can be really difficult at times to control your anger when you have to deal with such people on a regular basis, you should know how to bear it all with a smile on your face. Make sure that you keep a check on your anger as much as possible. If you are not in a good mood, it is better that you do not go in front of them instead of starting a fight. The more you get into such situations, the more you will end up spoiling your own day. So it is best to avoid them as much as possible. You would not like it if the fights turned into legal matters, so try and keep away from such neighbors as they can be really dangerous if they get angry enough.

Never provoke them and always keep your wits about you for the longest possible period. If you feel provoked, it’s better to just walk away rather than stay there and initiate a fight!

Be firm and sweet at the same time

Such people generally happen to be attention seekers who love to bug the people around them. So it would be best if you did not pay heed to such irritating beings. Just let them be the way they are; trying to change them would only make you feel more frustrated as they do not mend their ways easily. Moreover, they can create problems between you and your other neighbors with whom you have good relations if you try to bother them. So, the best thing to do in such a situation is to be firm while at the same time, acting sweet. Do not give them the liberty to torture you all the time but also do not let them know that you hate them or they would repeatedly do the things that bother you.

Do not ever let them get the hint that their acts are affecting you in any way. Just be engrossed in your own activities and try to ignore them while being in touch with them.

You neighbors happen to be someone you just can’t ignore completely so it would pointless to even try doing that. Rather, you should ensure that you know them completely and they know only that part of you which you want them to be familiar with i.e., the strong and independent side so that they get the idea that you can deal with them if need be but you are not at all bothered by their acts to give them that much importance or to hold grudges against them or even to get entangled in an argument with them.

Dr Prem Jagyasi

Dr Prem Jagyasi

Author, Chartered Consultant, Personal Branding Expert & Global Trainer at DrPrem.com
Author of several life improving guide books – Dr Prem is an award winning strategic global leader, successful chartered consultant, personal branding expert and global trainer.  Dr Prem has traveled to more than 40 countries to work with above 150 international organisations and to speak in global conferences. Dr Prem has published several guide books and numerous niche websites which have millions of reader across the globe.
Dr Prem Jagyasi
Dr Prem Jagyasi
Dr Prem Jagyasi

Latest posts by Dr Prem Jagyasi (see all)

  • Omg

    I have a crazy neighbor he so stupid by putting a electric wire
    On his fence so someone could touch it and hurt not knowing
    Or illegal to do that he could get a fine if someone get hurt
    I don’t do nothing to this guy i a black woman and he white male
    I think he prejudice about blacks well that to bad we are not going
    Anywhere deal with Ass hole